Last week I had no clue what to write for this. So a few friends told me they would like to see something on cyber bullying. I thought about how I wanted to write this. I thought about putting statistics and what psychologist say but then I decided that I want this to be as personal as some of my other posts have been.
I believe everyone who is on the internet gets cyber bullied at one point or another. I know I have been. It got worst after I got married at 17. I even had so called friends post statuses on Facebook ridiculing me for it. As a military wife, I see these women get cyber bullied for the things they do by people they don’t even know online. Just recently, I watched a close friend of mine fall apart because someone posted complete lies about her and her family. She was terrified that these lies would cause CPS to come to her house for an investigation. There is nothing more terrifying to a woman who loves her child than to have them taken from her.
I even had a brush with cyber bulling recently as well. A girl I haven’t even thought of in a long time messaging me calling me names and saying I did these untrue things or untrue things happened to me. However, this was the first time I just laughed about it and didn’t let it affect me, though my husband didn’t like what was being said. Luckily, I talked him out of being the rescuing husband and prevented farther drama.
Cyber bulling is a serious thing. It happens everyday and anyone who can read this blog, sees it everyday. Yet most of the time we sit there and do nothing about it. Even worst some people join in. Words hurt. Words have a psychological effect. Negative words tend to last longer in our heads than the positive words. And for some people those negative words, even though they come from a stranger, just sits in their heads replaying.
People find it easier to hide behind a device because you can’t seen the damage it causes for the person you are writing the cruel words to. You don’t see the tears that stream down the face of the person hurting. You can’t see the pain in their face. And what’s worst; is you probably just topped off a bad life. Everyone is fighting their own battles. Their battles may be different to you and may not seem as bad but it is for them.
So next time, keep your words to yourself or defend someone you see being attacked. You never know what that person could be going through and there is enough hurt in the world.